Teaching Children About Good Touch Bad Touch By The Story Merchants
In today’s times, we hear a lot about child abuse and molestation. It’s high time we start teaching young children about “Good Touch Bad Touch” to help start the conversation about what is appropriate and what is not.
Every single day, the media reports such cases where young children, both boys and girls, are sexually abused by an adult that they know and is often around them. The issue is that they don’t understand what is appropriate or not to be able to have that discussion with a parent and talk about it.
It is still a sensitive topic for parents to talk to their children, so most of them do not want to go there. The same goes for schools as well. It is an uncomfortable conversation to have with your children but it needs to be had. Here are some simple ways to bring it up without causing anxiety.
Start Sensitizing Children From a Very Young Age
Start talking to your child about good touch bad touch as early as possible so that they are equipped to understand this sensitive issue.
Shed Your Inhibitions
As parents, at times we are not comfortable taking up these sensitive topics, but, the learning has to start at home and its all about your child’s safety. Put aside your doubts and inhibitions and talk to your little ones in a simple way and with a play methodology like we do for many other things.
Start by Telling Children About Their Private Parts
Tell them that the body parts we usually keep covered are our private parts and no one has the permission to touch you there. Give them your own example that even parents touch you there only if they are bathing or cleaning you, not otherwise.
Make Them Understand the Difference Between Good and Bad Touch
- Good Touch– It feels, pleasant and good, it is a way to show care, love and help. Explain with the help of examples like when mommy hugs you or papa gives you a goodnight kiss or your grandparents hold you in their arms and you hold your friend’s hands while playing.
- Bad Touch– Touches that make you uncomfortable and you feel unpleasant and you want to stop it there and then. Again, use some examples to explain them like, it is a bad touch if you feel hurt, if you do not want to be touched, if someone touches your private parts without a reason, if someone touches you and tells you not to tell anyone, all these are examples of a bad touch.
- Become Your Child’s Best Friend – Spend quality time with your children. Listen to them when they are sharing about what they did during the day. Assure them that they can share anything with you.
Our job is not done yet. Alerting children is not enough, we have to teach them what to do if ever face a situation like this. Tell them to follow these simple things:
- Tell your children that if someone touches you in a way that you do not like, say NO. It’s your body and no one can touch in a way that you do not like or that makes you uncomfortable.
- Get away from that place as fast as you can. Try not to be alone with that person in the future.
- Immediately call for help, go to a trustworthy person like your parents or your teacher and tell them everything that happened. You can scream for help if you do not have your elders nearby.
- Tell them not to be scared of that person and not to feel bad about themselves. They have not done anything wrong. It’s the other person who is guilty, not them.
All of us want our children to be safe and secure and want to give them the best. We want to protect them against all odds. Our children come in contact with many people every day and we cannot always be there to control certain situations they may be put in.
So, it becomes our responsibility to sensitize them, equip them so that they are ready to face and handle any odd situation or person coming their way.
Sensitizing children about various issues relating to good touch bad touch, make them emotionally strong and helps them to grow normally. It helps them handle “not so positive events” in life in a better way so that they do not impact their growth and personality.
Come, let’s join hands to make this world a better and safer place for our young generation by fully exhausting and utilizing the route of dialogue. If your child is making up stories, you still need to listen to them - it is vital that as a parent, you support them, and believe them. They need to know they can trust you, and that you will protect them.